The first quarter of 2026 is already behind us. And if I’m being honest, it didn’t go the way I thought it would… but maybe exactly the way I needed it to. There are moments in life where things don’t fall apart, but quietly ask you to slow down. Not in a dramatic way, but in a way that gently pulls you back to yourself. That is exactly what happened to me.
I went on a solo trip to Bonaire, and without really expecting it, something shifted inside of me. For the first time, I felt truly present on the island. Not just visiting, but experiencing it.
I connected deeply with my family: I hugged my grandma a little longer, spoke to people I didn’t know, and really took in the beauty of the island and its people.
Even music felt different. The DTMF album by Bad Bunny hit me in a way I didn’t expect. Everything felt softer, closer, more real. I took pictures and videos, but more importantly, I allowed myself to feel everything.
Coming back and choosing stillness
When I came back home, I didn’t feel the urge to jump straight back into my routine. I felt still. Not empty, but full of emotions and experiences I needed time to process.
Instead of rushing back into “normal life,” I allowed myself to sit in that stillness. I let go of the constant feeling that I had to show up, had to post, had to be visible.
The guilt and the shift
At the same time, I felt guilty. While I was showing up for myself, I wasn’t showing up for PinkDo the way I normally would.
I told myself people would lose interest, my engagement would drop, and it might look like I wasn’t committed. But the truth is, no one said that to me. That pressure came from myself.
And then something clicked.
I realized I wasn’t being inconsistent. I was living everything I had been telling others to do. I was choosing myself. Slowing down. Taking care of myself. Living my own vision instead of just talking about it.
What choosing myself really looked like
Choosing myself didn’t mean doing nothing. It meant focusing on what actually mattered.
I was organizing my workshop, working as a virtual assistant, spending time with friends and family, and for the first time really committing to reflection. My coach told me to take ten minutes a day to sit with my thoughts, and I actually did it. That alone shifted so much.
At home, I was also needed. My youngest is still my baby, and we were going through transitions like potty training and letting go of the pacifier. By removing the pressure to constantly show up online, I could be more present. It made everything feel lighter, and it truly became a team effort.
The lesson
It is okay to slow down. It is okay to live your life without turning every moment into content or feeling the need to explain yourself.
You don’t have to prove anything. I used to think everything had to be perfect. Perfect timing, perfect posts, perfect everything. But life doesn’t work like that, and growth doesn’t look like that. Now that I am stepping back into PinkDo, it feels different. Not forced, but aligned. I feel alive. I still love pink, I still love what I do, but my mindset is softer and more grounded.
Niks moet.
If you are in that phase right now
If you feel overwhelmed, guilty, or like you are falling behind, you are not! You are in a process.
Take the pause. Sit in the stillness. Choose yourself.
This is a “because I promised myself” kind of year. Go back to your vision board and remind yourself who you are and what you want.
And when you are ready, you will come back not because you have to, but because you are ready to.
Hi, I am Fabie
I am a Virtual Assistant, an entrepreneur, a mom, and, honestly, a potpourri of everything in between, and the heart behind PinkDo. I strongly believe in the Pink Power and the positive impact it can have on your business.
Since I was young, I have loved structure, planning, and helping my people. Today, I am living that purpose by supporting clients around the globe every single day. As my slogan says, 'Do Did Done,' I have you covered. That is the PinkDo way.
Wanna know more? Read more about me.
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